2022 Review Part 2: Mistakes and Workhorses

In Part 2 of my review, I want to look more closely at retirements and purchases. Including my mistakes. 

Here are the items I've retired so far this year. 

Retired footwear, whatever its age, was all worn out. This is typical for me. I wear my shoes hard. Footwear will always be one of my largest expenses and that’s okay. 

25 retired clothing items were more than 5 years old and each had many, many wears. All but the “occasion” dresses were worn out. Those are not worn out but are shorter than I now prefer.

1 retired item was a jacket bought at consignment that lived 4 happy seasons in my closet and can now find love from someone new.

However....

5 items were recent purchases that I would classify as “mistakes” — and two were near-mistakes— which is a fairly high number for me. What went wrong? 

Kit and Ace top — great colour for me but too loosey goosey. Did not enjoy wearing even as loungewear. I did, however, wear it quite a lot in the year I had it, gritting my teeth every time.

Red cardigan— meant to replace an older worn-out one. I wore it, but didn’t enjoy wearing it. The shoulder fit felt off, the pockets were not well placed, it just did not hang the way I wanted. Off it goes. I will need a similar item in spring, though. I really love a bright red, lightweight topper. 

Kimono — loosey-goosey (do you detect a theme here?). The colours are nice, it should, theoretically, have fit into the closet. But I did not wear it. I bought this with store credit and was really quite desperately searching for something I could tolerate there — alas. Someone else will love it, I’m sure.

BR Jeans — not a good fit and didn’t like the whiskering. Desperation purchase.

Linen shirt — scratchy and weird fit to it. I wore it a number of times but did not like it.

Pink shirt — I did wear this in my garden over two seasons (so it wasn't a total flop) but as flattering as this mid-pink is on me, I detest wearing it. I do not feel like myself in it. 

Balloon jeans -- I really love the fabric of these jeans. I have worn them for two seasons, though not a lot. Mainly because of the colour. I wanted to branch out into greens but this is too yellow an olive to work well with my closet. I don't have stuff to wear with them, and don't want to purchase. So...onwards. 

This is more shopping mistakes than I've made for many a year. Have I learned what I need to learn from these errors? Well...what I seem to have discovered is that I tend to make the most mistakes in seasons when I am flailing around, aiming for a style reset but not really knowing how or where to begin. I also make errors when trying to expand my colour range, but I think that's fairly common and forgiveable, particularly since we've been confined so much to online shopping. 

As LJP noted on another thread and others have also commented, this year, the major changes in silhouette that have been underway for a number of seasons finally seemed to coalesce and become real and vital to deal with, in some way. Maybe these were the cuts available at retail across more price points and regions, maybe it was because more of us were venturing out more often and found we needed replacement items...I really don't know for sure. 

Onto my successful purchases: 

Successful spring/ summer purchases that became workhorses include a summer sleeveless top and a linen jacket with stretch sleeves. White shorts to replace worn out ones. Also, casual gear-crossover sandals and sneakers. (Duh)

My surprise workhorse NAS purchase was the loafers. I love these so much as my at home shoes! Game changers.

Other F/W workhorse purchases include my new, baggier all-cotton jeans, Blundstones, and new white booties! 

I have to admit that I probably needed to make these purchases in order to freshen up. There’s a bit of guilt here because my wardrobe has expanded over the years and despite my recent retirements, I have a closet full of “perfectly good” clothes, all of which I genuinely love, and some of which I don’t wear as often as I might like. So what the heck am I buying new stuff for? Right?

But it does make a difference. The slight changes in silhouette, the greater ease, and the pure fun of playing with a new-to-me shape or colour does invigorate me. I don’t want to be unmindful of the effects the fashion industry has on our environment, but at the same time, I want to continue to have some fun with my clothes. It's tricky! 

Thanks for reading this far, if you have, and I hope this may be useful to some. 

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32 Comments

  • Jenni NZ replied 1 year ago

    Wonderful analysis. And it sounds like you certainly tried to wear the mistakes.
    I agree about not wanting to give up buying something new altogether. For those of us who are not closet minimalists, it certainly can be invigorating to get something new.
    I just try to keep it limited and wear the new thing often if possible, being aware that wearing it means I am wearing older stuff less, so trying to have already worn the older stuff well too!
    Is the consignment jacket the brownish-beige one with the pretty pink flowers (Pink Tartan)?

  • kkards replied 1 year ago

    Mistakes are part of learning. If we don’t make mistakes we probably aren’t growing. And I know you changed locations/climates and we had a pandemic so yup it would be expected that there would be so changes & with that some mistakes.

  • Irina replied 1 year ago

    I wish I knew how to avoid mistakes. But I think mistakes are balanced by items that became workhorses. And you did well refreshing your wardrobe. 

  • Runcarla replied 1 year ago

    Sometimes I feel like I’m in a dark room, trying to find the door out - when it comes to personal style.  2022 has been like that.  I agree with you and LJP that like it or not, new/changing silhouettes are moving into mainstream, and not all the shapes are going to work with what we have in our working closets or gel with our personal style.  Sorting through what is available, mistakes and successes, are all a part of the creative problem solving that makes fashion-as-self-expression so much fun.  


    PS: BIG THANK YOU for ‘sharing’ all the info about the Liverpool suit.  I’m deliriously happy with it.  In part because it looks so good, and in part for everything it represents (embodying my hopes and dreams for some travel in 2023!)

  • Suz replied 1 year ago

    Irina, that's a great way to look at it -- mistakes are balanced by those items that become workhorses. In fact, it's literally true in terms of wears. I have SO MANY WEARS of the loafers already...they have more than paid for the items that did not work out! 

    kkards -- so true. And you are also right about the changed lifestyle/ climate. It's been several years since I moved, but I'm still getting used to my new locale and still adjusting. 

    Jenni, thank you, and yes! That was the consignment jacket. I really loved it. It's very warm (a winter only item here) and such a fun cut with the flared sleeve and nipped in waist. I wore it a TON the first two years I had it. But during the pandemic it didn't see much action and now I want to move it along to make room for other statement jackets. Someone else will really enjoy it, I'm sure. 

    I think your point about wearing the newer items like crazy before adding to the closet is really key. If you've worn the old stuff a lot, there is less guilt about letting it hang about almost unworn for a year or two. At the same time, I think I'm ready to challenge myself this year to wear my mostly unworn items (apart from special occasion pieces.) So that will be one of my goals!  Thanks for helping me to work that through! 

  • LJP replied 1 year ago

    Interesting , thanks for taking the time to put this together . I am putting together a review of my own tonight and will share more of my thoughts on changing silhouettes in 2022 . I also appreciate how you’ve created a file for “retirements “ - I can see how it will be useful .

  • LJP replied 1 year ago

    Oh also - I really appreciate your attitude toward passing things along . It’s far more pragmatic and even positive than the beating-oneself - up approach . You’ve encouraged me to see it this way myself - which will make it easier to cull out the old professional work clothes I no longer want nor need .

  • Suz replied 1 year ago

    Lisa,.keeping track of what I buy each year and what I retire allows me to see patterns over time (esp. having it all in Finds). How many items am I buying as compared to the number I'm passing along? Why am I buying the items I'm buying? Why am I passing things along?  It  keeps me more accountable to myself. 

    I'm not good with spreadsheets, and don't really care about CPW, per se, (though I do want to get value for money) --  but I did track wears for about 6 months some years ago, and I've just embarked on a new phase of doing so. The information I gleaned that first time around really helped me figure out where it is ok for me to spend money because I depend on these items to add currency to my style and I will wear them to death within a few seasons (jeans, footwear); where I could consider wearing what I already own rather than buying something new (dressy tops); and where I should consider shopping consignment, super discount sales, or fast fashion if what I want is a fun new statement (blazers, some coats).

    I do sometimes feel a bit of guilt about letting some things go...if I paid a lot and didn't wear it much, I feel twinges, for sure! But mostly I just figure -- if it is in good shape, someone else really will enjoy it (after all, I buy consignment myself and enjoy the items I buy!) and if it is worn out or not decent quality to begin with, well, what am I feeling guilty about? The manufacturer is the one who ought to feel guilty about that, LOL. 

    And honestly -- some movement in a closet is part of what an interest in fashion and style entails. I don't want to ignore the problems of the planet, but really...this is hardly the most damaging habit we could have, nor are the people on this forum the most excessive fashionistas. I have a lot of clothes by many people's standards but I do not have a houseful of shoes, despite the fact that Mr. Suz calls me Imelda. :) 

    Carla, I am so delighted to be your suit twin and I feel exactly as you do about its travel possibilities!! We, too, are hoping for a really nice trip this year and I will certainly bring it! 

  • SarahD8 replied 1 year ago

    I relate very much to the "loosey-goosey" mistake theme. I am drawn to items that are fluid, easy, and even a bit louche (in line with that 1920s aesthetic that I think we both intersect with a bit). But if they are TOO unstructured they're just wrong on me. It can be a tough balance!

    Great idea to analyze your workhorses as well as "mistakes." I will ponder the same, I think it could be really useful for me. Also how satisfying are SURPRISE workhorses??? As a fellow WFH person I love that you've found a WFH shoe that is making that part of your wardrobe come together. 

  • LJP replied 1 year ago

    Yes Suz, I absolutely agree .

  • Jaime replied 1 year ago

    So much to think about Suz. I am very against all the guilt about mistakes. Style is a perfectly legitimate hobby/pastime/avocation or whatever you want to call it and time and money spent on it are no more wasted than time and money spent following a sports team (tickets and merch), fly fishing, skiing or collecting art - just to name a few "acceptable" and expensive things people do. So let's call them experiments and remember we learn as much from disproving the hypotheses as proving it. Your style has been absolutely fabulous this year, and you have inspired me and many others with your ideas and thoughtful comments. So thank you!

  • Suz replied 1 year ago

    Awww, Jaime, you are such a brilliant dresser and so knowledgeable and thoughtful in how you mix and match. Thank you. Also, I am 100% with you on the return to BF jeans -- that is one way I have handled the looser silhouette, too. They just plain work for me, so why not? 

    Sarah, SO true about the footwear -- it is HUGE. How did I not understand this before? Or rather, how did I miss out on this? (Actually, I know how; flats are super hard for me to fit and the shoe needs to be slip on to work for at home for me...so I did in fact experiment a few times and just did not find the right shoe. Now I will feel more confident to keep looking.) 

    Also, it's really interesting that you relate to the "loosey goosey" comments. We are about the same height and work from home a lot. I guess we just don't want to feel as if we are in our robes all day....I really appreciate your comment about that "louche" 20s stye being both attractive and a potential danger to us -- that was a lightbulb moment. Many thanks. 

  • rachylou replied 1 year ago

    I have this elusive thought at the back of my mind, darting in and out… you know when you need a bit of style freshening, but a purchase takes you too far out… but you don’t know it until you’re, well, too far out…

  • Minaminu replied 1 year ago

    Great summary and reflections! I can see why loose items were not a successful for you as I imagine that you feel more at home with a structured look which works for your gamine look.

  • replied 1 year ago

    I had the same issue with loosey goosey tops this year. I just bought a couple of these as an attempt to make them more fitted. https://www.etsy.com/listing/6.....hare_v4_lx
    It should warm up enough this week to wear blouses instead of sweaters so will report back!

  • Joy replied 1 year ago

    Dear Suz, your mistakes were eye opening. For example most of my unworn items are " loosely goosey" especially a few poncho type toppers.  They are one- size fits all (but too big on me). So even if they are good colors they do not get worn to justify keeping them. I gravitate to too loose because that is what I have worn most of my life.  It also hides my glucose meter.  Another mistake is too loose sweaters for me.

     I also need to spend more on footwear to get the colors and comfort that I need. 
      

  • Suz replied 1 year ago

    Rachy, maybe too far out is where I need to go! :)  I guess we will see in the year ahead. 

    Minaminu, yes, I need at least some structure. But i am enjoying some looser silhouettes in denim. 

    Suntiger, those are nifty clips! Barettes for your blouse! 

    Joy, I'm not surprised you also find too oversized items difficult to wear. Yet at the same time you need some ease and extra for coverage of the glucose meter. It's a never-ending task to find the right balance, it seems! 

  • Cardiff girl replied 1 year ago

    I have been looking forward to your analysis on your mistakes.It Can be very hard sometimes to understand  why something is a mistake because we obviously don’t buy  clothes unless we like them so it’s really useful to hear your experience,and thoughts,thank you.
    l don’t buy sale things anymore unless l have been stalking an item ,,buying things because l think that lshould have them in my wardrobe and buying things in a rush because l have a voucher or an event always leads to mistakes for me

  • RobinF replied 1 year ago

    Great analysis! I think you can lose the guilt about the mistakes since most were worn, at least for a while. 

    All of your new purchases are great, the white boots and patent loafers are especially nice and will be well worn I am sure. So satisfying when a new purchase fits seamlessly into the wardrobe.

    I agree with you that rush purchases can end up being a mistake, and about sometimes just needing something new to add excitement to my wardrobe. Such great points.

  • Dee replied 1 year ago

    Another insightful assessment of your wardrobe Suz, the words "desperate purchase" resonated with me, as I've done that myself and these compromises rarely work out in the end.

    I also identified with the idea of having a closet full of perfectly good clothes yet feeling the need for some updates but still concerned about the environmental impact of the fashion industry. For me thats a biggie, as I want to avoid making too many purchasing errors going forward.

  • jussie replied 1 year ago

    It’s also tricky when something is nice, and in theory a good purchase, but you don’t wear it simply because you have other things that are even nicer! So it sits unused even though there’s nothing wrong with it. Talk about “first world problems” ;). your wardrobe is looking great, and frankly it sounds like you made very few mistakes this year. And you gave them a decent try before writing them off, then analysed why they were mistakes so… pretty good strategy overall!

  • Suz replied 1 year ago

    Thanks, Jussie! Duplicates in a different colour -- that's where I sometimes run into what you describe above. In theory, both colours should work, but in practice, I wear one way more and the other languishes. I've stopped doing it very often but now and again I fall prey, especially if items are on sale. Hmmm.

    Dee -- desperation purchases are the worst! In this case, I really, really, really needed new jeans! And just could not find a pair that met all my criteria. Jeans are every day work from home wear for me so I understand, after so many try-ons and returns, I finally kept a pair that seemed to tick my boxes....but I wasn't being discerning enough. I guess those mistakes can really happen to anyone. 

    Robin, thank you. Yes, I wore everything but the kimono, so it's not a total loss. And most of these are in good enough condition to donate and live happily in someone else's closet, so there is that. 

    Cardiff Girl, that is very wise, to avoid the sales except for items you already know you want. I think it must prevent a lot of errors. Another lesson to integrate into my list of lessons! 

  • Jenni NZ replied 1 year ago

    Thanks about the consignment jacket. I really liked that one. I feel better about passing on thrifted things with possibly fewer than #30 wears as I feel -well they already exist in circulation. But if I can wear them that much first I feel even better. I am liking the charity thrift stores more than the for-profit secondhand stores but do use both and donate to both- the for-profit one provides the easy “clothing bins” which also do rag recycling. I have benefited from the for-profit one going back many years when the girls were teenagers wanting new dresses for teenage dances. And they do make some monetary donations to the Child Cancer Foundation as well, perhaps not as much as some people think.
    I still make some mistakes. Even after over 5 years on the forum! So happy my mistakes are fewer though. It feels like I am more sustainable than I was before. I don’t beat myself up.
    There are worse hobbies and money-wasters for sure!

  • Janet replied 1 year ago

    Suz, your analysis is so strong! Well done on doing this review. I’m a bit daunted by doing a similar project, but my brain has been overly full of home renovation, holiday travel, and a bit of work too.

    I think that even with a slightly higher “mistake” rate you’re still doing really well. I’m sure that in terms of percentages, most of us have made at least as many “mistakes.” Quite honestly, sometimes it’s really impossible to know whether things will work out — shoes that don’t pass the long-term comfort test, knits that pill or stretch, pants that bag out… and then there are items you think you have to have, which don’t get worn for whatever reason! I certainly have my share from this year!

  • Bijou replied 1 year ago

    It is so interesting to read your analysis, as I can see that I have made many of the same mistakes in 2022. From your WIWs, your wardrobe misses have been few, the wardrobe mistakes were close to being right for your style, but just slightly missed the mark. The wardrobe workhorses have been outstanding additions as have your wildcard items, tulle skirt and leather jacket.

    Covid has meant for me I have bought more online and as a result have settled with items that if I had tried in store, would not have come home with me. In 2023 I need to exercise discipline in only buying items that are perfect, whether online or in store.

  • Suz replied 1 year ago

    Bijou, yes, I think with online shopping, even if you develop an excellent routine for returns, it can be tempting to keep an item that is an "almost" -- especially if you have to pay for returns. I'm about to post a few reviews that raise that problem in another thread! 

    Janet, I've been so envious of your wonderful trip! I loved the Christmas season in New York and also love Quebec City. I love it out here but sometimes I really miss the east! With the pandemic, we have hardly travelled... anyway, no wonder you have not had time to reflect on the closet. Some years, December just isn't the right time. You'll figure out a better moment to fit it in. Anyway, you are so right that some mistakes are inevitable. Especially if we are trying to branch out, or use up a credit, something like that. 

    Jenni, I'm so glad you have stopped beating yourself up! Your closet is definitely more sustainable and in your control than when you joined the forum! You have a perfect sense of what you own, how much you use it, why you keep it, and what you would like to add! You're one of the best wardrobe managers on the forum now! 

  • Angie replied 1 year ago

    As always, Suz, your writing and thoughts are a pleasure to read! And you're looking better than ever :)

    I'm sooo with Jaime - I don't see these as mistakes. Fits, colours and fabrics can feel off only AFTER we road test them a few times. Despite our best thoughtful intentions. It's okay! We tried, and now we know....

    I LOVE straight, fluid and boxy fits!!! My best!! But oversized and "loosey goosey" in the wrong way is not for me either. I can't feel fab in the vibe, and avoid it entirely. I get it! 

    I don't wear olive pants anymore either - or solid olive for that matter. High five! 

    I DO think there is room for the right balloon and barrel BLUE jean though :) 

  • Suz replied 1 year ago

    Angie, thank you. I completely agree -- a balloon jean or barrel jean is a great style for me. I loved the shape of these and would happily add a pair in blue, grey, or white. Or even a bright, like red! Or burgundy, for fall. Or a pattern! They were super fun to wear. Mr. Suz loved them, too. So I will continue the hunt for the right pair. 

  • Sal replied 1 year ago

    Late to this Suz! Interesting reading and I can relate to your feelings with the so close but not quite right. I am tall with more real estate but my misses are often loosey goosey pieces too.

    You are a supportive and inspirational form member and stylish woman.

  • slim cat replied 1 year ago

    Great análisis and pretty good results considering still very challenging year of 2022. I would say that you are always look very stylish and put together even when you showing things that didn't quite worked for you. Hope the new year will be successful in every way - clothes/purchases included ;) .

  • Jenn replied 1 year ago

    Suz, you know I keep a reasonably small and conscientious wardrobe, but I still agree with this:

    And honestly -- some movement in a closet is part of what an interest in fashion and style entails

    Enjoying fashion and honing your personal style, even with missteps and mistakes and even emotional purchasing, isn't the same as hauling home bags of fast fashion each week or consuming for the sake of consumption.

    I've been filling out my 2023 planner this week--a Moleskine with space at the start for life goals in different areas--and one of the sections was "Passions." I know Moleskine puts out a line of "Passion" journals focused on things like cooking, travel, wine, books, film, wellness etc. Thinking about it in those terms made me realize that style is a passion and is just as valid as those other pursuits (some of which I also claim). 

  • Suz replied 1 year ago

    Jenn, what a nice way to put it. It's definitely a joyful hobby -- I guess those of us who love fabrics and textures and pattern and colour are bringing all those things to the world, right? I think about the pleasure I derive from seeing a well dressed or interestingly dressed person on the street. Person can be any age, any gender, any race  -- I just love it! So maybe I can bring someone else a bit of joy as well as myself -- and that is no small thing. 

    Thanks, slim cat and Sal -- I appreciate your generous thoughts! 

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