Style BVP

I'm awfully late to this discussion, but I've enjoyed reading the responses! It's been fun getting to know how you see yourselves in relation to your clothing, and quite revealing -- I'm sure these conversations will help improve future outfit labs and the like!

Beliefs:

  • Clothes can express who we are and who we want to be in the world.
  • Style is for everybody. It’s not limited by a person’s age, size, income bracket, race, ethnicity, gender, body type, nationality, etc. Stylish people come in all kinds.
  • Style can be learned and developed over time. You don’t have to be born with it.
  • Clothing can be a source of aesthetic pleasure, and aesthetic pleasure is a good in the world. It brings us joy.

Values

  • Practicality: Clothes have got to work for the wearer. (Or at least this wearer).
  • Beauty: fabrics that drape well or hold their shape, well-cut designs, rich colours, interesting textures—these enrich our lives and are worth seeking out.
  • Fun: Girls just wanna have it. And for me, fashion’s a place I can play. Learning is also part of that fun, which is one reason YLF is such a great gathering spot--so much to learn from Angie and all of you! 
  • Sustainability, which for me means maintaining a moderate sized wardrobe that includes a mix of older and newer pieces, buying consignment/ vintage at times and at other times seeking out locally designed or mindfully sourced fabrics, continuing to learn about the impact of the industry on the planet, and donating my gently used items so that they get a second life.
  • Coherence: Meaning, significance, making or revealing connections. I'm not sure this will make sense to some, but it's about a felt need to make sense, to make, period, and to communicate. 

Personality:

If you look in my closet, you’ll see a whole lot of blue! Alas, it’s true, I have a melancholic streak…but I like to think I’m also lucid and reflective. Often, I appear calm, but you know what they say — still waters run deep! (Gah…to think this woman calls herself a writer, right? ;)  Okay, okay…)

Also…see those flashes of red and berry and magenta and fuchsia? Yep, I have a fiery side, and I’m warm and energetic, too. I need to move, and I need to spend time outdoors….hence, the importance of practical clothing.

There’s a fair amount of white — for clarity. And grey, because I’m the farthest thing from a black-and-white thinker — in fact, my friends and family tease me that one of my favourite phrases is: “It’s complicated.” Ambiguities intrigue me. 

Look at all those stripes and tartans and patterns —even on the footwear!— and all that silver and pewter—there’s the spunk and fun coming out. I’ll mix them in, mix them up, and happily wear them every which way. In other words, I don't mind standing out a bit, don't mind drawing attention to myself. Sometimes. And unexpected associations delight me. As does the slight friction of juxtaposition. 

In shorthand, I’m an INFJ-(maybe A? if you believe those subtypes..or any of them, frankly), like Staysfit, and maybe Jenn. And probably half a dozen others here. While I need my alone time to process, in person, I’m talkative and social and sometimes quite assertive, especially on behalf of others. I love to connect with people and help them (there’s a reason I teach), I love love love to learn, and I need to make meaning of my experience with words. 

I’m also an Upholder with a questioning side.

And also, a lucky parent, because my kid just cooked me supper! 

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16 Comments

  • Joy replied 8 months ago

    It is always fun to read your expressive written words. Blue is also a beautiful color on you.

  • Runcarla replied 8 months ago

    You are an astute fashionista, Suz!  The BVP exercise has been a meatier subject compared to some forum topics.  I think it will provide a depth of understanding for some intuitively stylish folks, and insight for those working out the kinks!  

  • rachylou replied 8 months ago

    I admire the phrase ‘aesthetic pleasure is a good in the world.’ I do feel aesthetics enhance and elevate the experience of life. I debated whether to include this - I didn’t - but I believe everything and everyone has beauty.

  • slim cat replied 8 months ago

    Joy to read - and very true from what I've seen so far ;) !
    Nice present - cooked supper ( lucky you! ).

  • Bijou replied 8 months ago

    Suz, what a delightful read about one of the loveliest people on the forum. I can see coherence in your wardrobe and the balance between action and contemplation.

  • Minaminu replied 8 months ago

    Suz, we could be twins! Could not have written any better the beliefs and values sections! Lots of blue in my wardrobe too! I'm always learning something from your posts!

  • Mainelady replied 8 months ago

    Suz, this is a delightful read. You describe your BVP very well and they are fabulously translated through your style.  I love your comment about aesthetic pleasure is a good in this world.

  • Angie replied 8 months ago

    *APPLAUSE*

    Such a fun read, Suz! (We are similar - I'm an ENFJ).

    Perfectly expressed, and I expected nothing less! You are very eloquent, calm, and level-headed, but with a good amount of fiery emotion, and I love the tension :)

    I've had the pleasure of spending quality time with you, and this is JUST how I perceive you! You have reached an incredible sense of inside-out congruency with your style, and it's a pleasure to read how you've pieced it all together. And a lot of it quite intuitively at one point!

    I like your reflections about blue, white, silver, and grey best. SOOOO YOU in every way. Rock on!

  • LaPed replied 8 months ago

    This all rings very true, Suz. I love how you've sussed out the meanings behind your colour palette! 

  • shevia replied 8 months ago

    Like Angie, I am lucky enough to have spent time with you so I had the pleasure of hearing you narrate this is my head. So splendidly you! I think one of your most admirable and outstanding traits is your openness to learning - information, viewpoints, other people's experiences, etc. You are a listener in the deepest sense. So yes to everything you wrote. I especially enjoyed how you connected your signature colors to your personality traits too!

  • Suz replied 8 months ago

    Thank you all -- yes, I thought about the colour symbolism...i figure, what makes us happy makes us happy for a reason. I appreciate your affirmations! 

  • Sal replied 8 months ago

    Loved reading this about someone I hope to meet one day! Brilliant summation of your style.

    Thank you for being a fantastic forum member!

  • suntiger replied 8 months ago

    Love this! And big yes to clothes for aesthetic pleasure :)
    What are the Myers Briggs subtypes?

  • Suz replied 8 months ago

    Suntiger, I wasn't really aware of the subtypes and I'm not entirely sure every type is supposed to have them, but they classify INFJs into at least two and maybe 3 subtypes -- if you look up 16 personalities I think you can find the subtypes. The "A" subtype is called the "advocate" -- more assertive and outspoken than the "T" (or turbulent) subtype There is also (maybe?) an "artist" subtype with a tendency to be less verbal. I mean, if you believe any of this stuff in the first place, LOL. I am not sure I believe, but it's fun. 

  • Cardiff girl replied 8 months ago

    You can tell that you are a writer,this read like a lovely little short story.Now I have to go and ponder the true meaning of all the clothes in my wardrobe!

  • Helena replied 8 months ago

    Yes to all this, and what comes across to me in your characteristics is a sense of balance ... the both/and way of being that we so desperately need more of in the world. Comes across beautifully in your style Suz. And yay for good kids cooking for their Mom! x

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