The Return Cycle. Plus a couple of keeps.

The good news: I only added 2 new items to my wardrobe vs. a possible 8. Mr. Suz can take back his words about "more clothes???" and my bank account will leave me more for the NAS. 

The bad I have to take it all back and I don't have the PJs I sorely need

Showing try on photos and some reviews: 

The shimmering plaid midi is a lot of fun and a really nice skirt. The pleats stay flat, unlike many of these skirts, so I thought it was worth a try. The colours are a blend of some cools and dominant warm tones  out of my usual range, so I thought it might make a fun semi-wild card. Fit is great. Comfort level high. It needs a steaming out of the bag, but I get the sense it would travel very well and dress up or down. 

But...I just don't love it enough to keep. I have my new cropped wide leg pants and culottes, plus last year's Liberty skirt, and possibly a few new dresses (if those work out). So I think it's going back, along with the tee. 

I love the white sleeveless shirt but it's a size too small. This type of shirt used to be my go-to in the 90s and I would love an update! But I think it's all gone in my size now. Oh well. 

I'm keeping the funny little denim shell. It's trapeze style with a tie at the back -- those kinds of things usually feel too fussy for me, but this one seems okay. It's super cool (temperature-wise) due to the cut and can be worn tucked or untucked. I think it will be a useful casual item. 

Also keeping the Collection silk shirt -- 3 of my best colours in one silk shirt, on substantial sale = no brainer. 

The PJs -- this was a case where reviews were right. The fit is just plain odd! Too bad, because the quality is nice and I need these!

The jeans. Well...I'm not crazy about them on me. They're good quality. The seamed wide legs are nice thick denim. Fit is pretty good -- maybe a tad snug. They'd need to be hemmed (no surprise.) But I'm just not crazy about them.

As for the straights, I feel the same. Fit is fine, quality fine, and the side stripe is really fun. But I don't want the distressing.

TBH, my glory days of denim were the slouchy skinny or slim BF. That's the denim silhouette I still love best, and feel I look my best in -- though I'd like it in a higher rise than of yore. Will be keeping my eyes open for that holy grail and sending these ones back. If anyone has suggestions or ideas for a slim BF with a higher rise -- I'm all ears. 


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  • Cardiff girl replied 1 year ago

    Good for you being so picky.Its a faff sending things back and can be so easy to just settle but one of the reasons that you look so good is that you have a good sense of what suits you so stick with your gut!

  • Brooklyn replied 1 year ago

    Yes, I think you can do better on the skirt. Something about the colour combination - not quite vibrant/saturated enough for your style. Of course computers can lie about colours.
    I tried a pair of jeans here almost identical to the first pair you are wearing. They were thick denim, 100% cotton, with no stretch at all. And also a tad snug. I liked the idea of them but I returned them too. I think I need a little stretch in my jeans for comfort. But not too much or they bag out. Sigh.
    Well done for being fussy.

  • suntiger replied 1 year ago

    Agreeing about the skirt colors, in comparison to how much I like your reds and blues, but I do like the jeans on you! Peruvian Connection has some nice pjs, and they're having a sale-psa :)

  • Angie replied 1 year ago

    Good job listening to your feelings. You and Mr. Suz crack me up...

    I LOVE the silhouette of the skirt - especially with the jacket and sneaks. Pretty, chic, flattering. But get that the print isn’t quite right for you. Patterns are emotive. You either love it or you don’t. You don’t. Next.

    The tops you’re keeping - one classic and one classic-esque. Makes sense when the trends aren’t our friends. KILLER tops for your style. Score.

    The jeans are good, but not good enough! Good job being fussy.

    Have you tried Pilcro and Madewell jeans? Maybe we can look see in store on the 15th?

    Pjs......have you tried Bed Head?

  • lisa p replied 1 year ago

    Hmm.   I agree with you about keeping the little denim top : it's super cute. But I want you to keep the second pair of jeans; they are uber-flattering.    I'm not in love with the skirt - I think you are wise to return it. It's pretty summery and although in wild-card territory, it doesn't seem quite you.nn

  • lisa p replied 1 year ago

    As for skinnies/slim jeans that have higher rises? It seems to be all about the brand Mother these days. Expensive, but really nice looking jeans.  

  • Roxanna replied 1 year ago

    Echo Lisa's comments above re skirt and jeans. LOVE the silk blouse.

    I bought the BR high rise medium wash cropped straight legs that were Angie's picks a couple of months ago and I am really actually loving the denim - not too stretchy but hugs the body and keeps its shape.

  • Bijou replied 1 year ago

    I LOVE the silk shirt on you, absolutely stunning and so very you. I have to love jeans to wear them, so if these are not love, then pass.

  • Lucy replied 1 year ago

    That silk shirt is absolutely perfect ! Wonderful find.
    I agree with returning the skirt - it’s not quite right !
    For jeans, do you have access to Jag Jeans - they are an Australian brand but I’ve seen them in the US. Not sure about Canada though .
    I bought some high waisted straights that are really fab (and not distressed!). Looking online I think they are these ones
    I found they bag out after two or three wears but I just wash them and they are fine . They are not too expensive so I don’t mind washing them more often .

  • Brooklyn replied 1 year ago

    Lucy, I have those jeans too. Here is a find for visuals.

  • Suz replied 1 year ago

    Thanks, all. Cardiff Girl, luckily in this case, the returns are not too bad -- I don't have to mail them back but can deliver them to a store. Yes, it's a trip downtown, but that's about half an hour away only. 

    Re jeans...I will check out Jag and Pilcro and Madewell. Brooklyn, thank you for the visual -- helpful!  I'll check out the BR ones, too -- thanks Roxanna. At minimum they might work as a stopgap -- not that I am in dire need. I tend to wear my white jeans more in summer anyway. 

    Lisa, the second jeans are good, just not good enough. I know I won't reach for them. I bought a pair of AG jeans at Anthro mid-winter and ugh ugh ugh. They seemed great at first, but they bag out something awful. These J. Crew ones wouldn't do that (not as much stretch) but something about the fit is a bit off for me. 

    I don't think we can get Peruvian Connection or Bedhead. But I will check it out!

    Thanks Bijou and Lucy and Lisa P and Angie and all in confirming the tops. They will work into rotation easily and the shirt won't date. 

  • Sal replied 1 year ago

    Love the tops and think you are right on the others.

    No particular advice on jeans - always tricky!! They will turn up though- I do plan to try the Wedgie at some stage.

  • rachylou replied 1 year ago

    Well, you look great in all the pics... but I will say I get serious Preppy Handbook flashbacks...

  • Style Fan replied 1 year ago

    Ha Ha Rachy!  I think you are wise to take the skirt back.  It does not look like your style.  I am also looking for the holy grail of jeans - high rise BF jeans.  I thought the Frame ones I bought were pretty good.  They are close but not perfect.  I might try Mother.  I don't mind spending $ for great jeans because I wear them so much.

  • Laura replied 1 year ago

    Here's the thing: you managed to narrow down your options and know exactly what you want, and that's a good thing. About the PJs, you might check Target. I just got a cute set from their new Stars Above brand.

  • Staysfit replied 1 year ago

    It’s nice for me to see another person reasoning through their choices when eliminating items that look nice but are still not perfect enough to make the grade! Thanks for sharing Suz!

  • replied 1 year ago

    Really sad about the J Crew pajamas.  I looked at them many times in the past.  You saved me the trouble of ordering and returning.  

    On the positive side, J Crew has really improved this year.  I have been impressed and happy with much of their offerings.  The denim shell top should be a winner for you!  YAY.  

  • Bennett replied 1 year ago

    I really like the second pair of jeans on you, but I totally get it about the distressing. That side view makes you look so long and lean!  I take a pass on a lot of jeans that have the exact silhouette I am attracted to, but 
    too much 'positioned' fading and whiskering, plus always with the damn holes!!!!!

    OK, rant over! Love that silk shirt, my colors too!

  • shevia replied 1 year ago

    The tops you kept are clearly the right ones to keep. Too bad you can't size up from the white top. I just wrote on Lisa's thread that slim boyfriend jeans are my high waisted. As it happens I have a pair of the Frame Le Garcon (consignment store find). I like them a lot but they are actually a bit big in the waist for me and would size down if that were an option. Hiked up bf jeans are where I'm at.

  • bj1111 replied 1 year ago

    Judy Rosen. Ridiculously expensive. They make your ass look outrageous. Only jeans mr bj approves of.

    I have the straight with stretch in indigo and the skinny with a front seam (no longer offered). I wanted a pair of all cotton. She wouldn’t even let me try them on. She said they wouldn’t flatter. Bossy mcbossy but she was right.

  • Jenni NZ replied 1 year ago

    Thanks for showing us pics of what you don’t think is right. It can be helpful applying to our own situations. I did think the skirt looked really pretty with the denim top...

  • nemosmom replied 1 year ago

    Oh, those tops are fab on you!

  • FashIntern replied 1 year ago

    Are you wearing the J Crew top in the find with the skirt in #1? It looks like a very different color.

  • kkards replied 1 year ago

    love the plaid midi, but i can see why you don't love it, its very NE prep, in fact my 1st thought was that skirt reminds me of Mrs Mallet who was a neighbor from my childhoodand the very defination of preppy...
    and the quest for the elusive boyfriend/slouchy highrise skinnyish jean....i have bought and returned 6 pairs....i love my Levi 501 but they are distressed so not appropriate for work, i've tried other 501s but they don't fit the same ANNOYING! but i ended up with the RE/Done pair in  finds, probably a little more slouch then what you are looking might be worth trying the Topshop editor

  • Suz replied 1 year ago

    These are great suggestions -- thank you! I'll check out Topshop, Judi Rosen, Frame, etc. 

    And maybe Citizens will come out with a style that suits this year. They're my go-to brand because they always fit me well. 

    Fashintern, yes, that is the J. Crew top. Colours can be deceiving in online pics! 

    Jenni -- yes, I figure it's good to show that we all strike out. There is nothing technically "wrong" with these pieces but they're not special enough to keep. 

    Thanks Bennett and all! 

  • Roxanna replied 1 year ago

    Suz - I heard a mom at my daughter's baseball game yesterday saying that she took her J Crew returns in store and they still deducted $15 shipping to ship them back to the warehouse! That has never happened to me but she saI'd it was a new policy (maybe because they shut down so many of their stores in Canada?) Keep us posted....

  • Suz replied 1 year ago

    Wow, you are kidding! I took some returns back there about two weeks ago and they just processed it without any fee at all! Yikes. 

    I'll keep you posted for sure. If that happens, goodbye J. Crew! 

  • lyn67 replied 1 year ago

    Love the tops-and was so-so with the skirt, but then saw it styled with the denim shell in nr 6-and there is perfectly yours!

  • Jenni NZ replied 1 year ago

    Exactly what I thought lyn67! Great minds and all that... I thought it looked way more “Suz” than with the lilac or white tops. As often happens though, I don’t understand why. Not my day job is my excuse :)

  • Suz replied 1 year ago

    Jenni  :)  I *think*it's because it's more relaxed and less full-on preppy, there's juxtaposition between the texture and formality of the denim and the shiny skirt, and also denim blue is one of my best colours. The others were a little "soft" for me and/or too pure prep. But it's going back anyway! 

  • Laurie replied 1 year ago

    denim top looks super cute on you, and is actually the thing I like best with that skirt. glad you are keeping the top. 

  • Jenni NZ replied 1 year ago

    Fair enough it goes back, it was interesting to me that lyn67, and myself, and now Laurie as well, all thought the same thing.
    I read the most fabulous children’s book once, by Australian author Emily Rodda, called “Something Special”, about how certain clothes just embody a person. This is many years ago, well before YLF and before much understanding of my personal style. I must have read it in the 90s because I know when Mum died in 1999 I thought of it when choosing how to dress her, I wanted her to be in a “special”. Somehow that combination was more “you” to us than the others.

  • Joy replied 1 year ago

    Such a lovely, colorful skirt.. I like it best with the simple black top

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