WIW to a Not-Funeral (plus new pixie)

An older friend's husband died suddenly last week. He had several chronic conditions, but nevertheless, this was a shock. He did not want a funeral or a conventional memorial but my friend held an open house today. I was not at all sure what to wear so I chose my RL shift dress and a kimono. And new red Franco Sarto sandals (which I took off at the door, ha!) It turned out to be the perfect outfit. 

The sandals just barely work on my medium-to-low volume foot. I have to do the strap up to its tightest hole and the foot straps are a bit loose -- they are fine in width (across the foot) but a bit generous for me in "depth" if that makes sense, so they are a little loose on me. A half size down probably would have been better but this will allow for a bit of swelling in humidity. The suede is extremely soft and comfortable and the heel is stable, despite being a bit higher than I prefer. Comfort level is high for those who can tolerate a heel. I'd recommend them for medium-high volume feet. 

I switched up my hair. Back to a texturized pixie with a bit more softness on the sides. The longer, thicker asymmetrical fringe that I was wearing is harder to manage in summer's humidity, and I was ready for a change. This is truly wash 'n wear. And I always feel most "myself" in a style like this. First 2 closeup photos with a flash and one without. 

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  • Angie replied 2 years ago

    My condolences. 

    KILLER all round. You gauged the situation well, and this is a great look.  

    Suz, I LOVE your Summer 'do. Looks AMAZNG with the several shades of grey running through the cut. Adds texture and warmth. Good brow definition too - VERY important for pixies, I think. 

  • Suz replied 2 years ago

    Thanks, Angie. Brows are absolutely crucial!! I have them, but they are awfully pale, so I need to augment. I still haven't done the permanent makeup thing but am considering it! 

    I am lucky to have so many (maybe 50?) shades of grey running through my hair, and layering/ texturizing emphasizes the variety of tones. It's like having natural highlights. 

    People dressed in a a wide variety of outfits, but all seemed to be aiming at "smart casual." No one was in all black, but most included a sober element (navy, black, grey, or dark brown). Many of the women had metallic touches. Some wore black and white. My friend (who is a decade older than me but who wears a similar grey pixie) was in black and white, in fact. 

  • efbgen replied 2 years ago

    My sympathies on the loss of your friend.
    It’s so interesting that more people are forgoing the whole funeral bit but still do something to enable a support system for family while acknowledging a life. Your outfit was so good. The floral top gave it an uplifting flair to a very nice classy looking dress. Think the shoes picking up the outfit’s red was fantastic.
    Your hair is great- and yes - humidity of summer is a real challenge.
    Well done even in a not so nice situation

  • Becky replied 2 years ago

    You look great. The pixie is a super, cool look for the summer. I love the phrase "wash and wear." I wish I could find something so low maintenance for myself!

  • lisa p replied 2 years ago

    I'm sorry to hear about your friend's husband.  I do love your new haircut, and your new shoes too. I have that depth problem too with some sandals like this.  I need to pay more attention to it though as it's resulted in a few poor decisions and sandals that aren't firm enough on my foot.  

  • jussie replied 2 years ago

    Your pixie is perfect.  Enviable.  I think you chose a nice outfit.  Kimono's are a fave of mine and you have worn it with your usual polished elegance.  Shift dresses are so handy.  The shoes are great too.  I'm sorry for the loss of your friend.

  • rachylou replied 2 years ago

    Really nice. The right tone. Hair looks good :)

  • JAileen replied 2 years ago

    I love your hair! Your outfit is lovely and appropriate for the event.

    Re brows: for awhile I attended to them with brow powder or somethng. I haven’t for awhile, and my brows even have a few grey hairs. :( My niece was a towhead as a child with very dark brows. It was a great if unexpected look. Her hair has darkened, but she still has very strong brows.

  • Suz replied 2 years ago

    JAileen -- I used to feel that if I had to choose ONE makeup item that I would not want to live without, it would be concealer cream. Now I could live without concealer, but never without a brow pencil tucked in my bag. 

    Thank you all for the kind compliments. I did have to take off that kimono inside after a while -- it was amazingly hot! But then at least I had the simple dress on. It felt right and my friend (who adores clothes) liked the outfit. She is in shock but holding up. 

  • shevia replied 2 years ago

    Sudden loss, all loss, is a shock no matter what. I am sure you were a comfort to your friend.
    Your hair is iconic. I love it and all its shades. Interesting about brows - mine are still pretty strong, but I do think filling them in makes the most dramatic change to my look. I don't always do it, but perhaps I should.

  • unfrumped replied 2 years ago

    So sorry for the loss of a friend.
    Lovely outfit— very grown up but not somber.

  • karen13 replied 2 years ago

    So sorry for your loss. You look perfect. It is hard to decide what to wear to these to strike the property balance between solemnity/respect and celebration of a wonderful person. You nailed it.

    And I so get the brow thing. Mine are super fair and with my pixie I have to define them or I feel very not fab. Love your hair - I have been trying to figure out what I like and don't about my pixie, and have found I really love the above the ears clean look, even though some times my hairdresser cuts it longer.

  • Aquamarine replied 2 years ago

    Agree the outfit is perfect for the occasion. In some ways, “funerals” are so much more trickier than they used to be when we were all expected to wear black. (I am going to a memorial service later this month, and we were asked NOT to wear black, specifically. Trying to strike the right level of formality while wearing non-black summer clothing is a bit of a dilemma.)

    LOVE your sandals. I understand the depth problem, as I struggle with it every summer and frankly am usually relieved when I can go back to closed toe shoes and booties once the weather cools down.

  • replied 2 years ago

    You looked beautiful and still appropriate/approachable. So sorry for the loss, both for yourself & especially his wife.

  • Jenni NZ replied 2 years ago

    It's hard when there is sudden loss like that even when the person has chronic conditions. Looks a great outfit for striking the right note. I hope you can be a good support for her.
    And I love the new pixie.

  • lyn67 replied 2 years ago

    My symphaty for your loss. Love the new cut, it's iconic, like Shevia1s, too! And the kimono&dress outfit was so stylish and perfect for the event! I  have  a pixie, too and almost invisible blonde brows but wearing dark frames makes me wonder if I really  need (or don't) to define them. I am not a pro and fear to end up with them too dramatic and clownish. Thus, after reading Angie's comment, will try again.

  • Chris987 replied 2 years ago

    My condolences - It's such a tough thing when someone passes away, whether it was expected or not. I have been hearing about more and more of these "non-funeral" things, it seems people want something different. You look absolutely perfect and he haircut is totally fab. I've had sandals with similar fit issues and you can often tighten them up by adding another hole so you can make the straps tighter....you can have a cobbler do it or get out a nail and hammer if you are handy at such things.

  • RobinF replied 2 years ago

    Great outfit, perfect for the occasion. I agree with above, your haircut it really nice, love the layers.

    So sorry for your loss. I think death is always a shock, even if the person is ill. 

  • Bijou replied 2 years ago

    A beautiful outfit and so appropriate for the occasion. I love the touches of red to make it look less sombre. Your hair looks wonderful - your stylist gave you a great cut.

  • Janet replied 2 years ago

    Suz, I’m sorry for your loss. Your outfit strikes exactly the right note, and you look wonderful. You rock that pixie like no ones business!

  • Suz replied 2 years ago

    Thanks for all the kind words, about occasion, outfit, and hair. 

  • Elizabeth P replied 2 years ago

    Sorry for your loss, Suz.
    Your outfit is perfect for the occasion.   I think I need a kimono.
    And I love your new hair cut!

    And those shoes.... well let's just say I didn't realize when you posted them earlier that they were available at the Bay, and I may just have to try them. 

  • Christina F. replied 2 years ago

    I'm sorry for your loss. You looked beautiful and appropriate, though.

  • Cardiff girl replied 2 years ago

    I m so sorry to hear this.You look very nice and very appropriate for the occasion.Your haircut suits you beautifully and what wonderful skin you have.Whatever you are doing ,keep doing it!

  • suzanne replied 2 years ago

    I'm so sorry for your loss.
    Your shoes are so cute and a great color!  Your haircut is also so cute and perfect for summer!

  • Mirjana replied 2 years ago

    Gorgeous, you look fantastic, lovely sandals.

  • delurked replied 2 years ago

    Echoing others thoughts here in your loss. Good outfit, and your hair is a winner.

  • texstyle replied 2 years ago

    I'm sorry for the loss of your friend but glad you were all able to honor his life. The outfit seemed spot on for the event. And your hair!!! It looks great and totally ready for summer. I feel the same way about brow pencil vs. concealer. I don't use much but without it, I never feel quite as polished.

  • Beth Ann replied 2 years ago

    Lovely choice, Suz.  I like the cultural shift to elegant and simple, but not all black, clothing.  It's seems warmer, and less severe.  Glad you could be there for your friend.

      I'm loving my two kimonos this summer, and the softness of the kimono balances the fab edginess of your hair beautifully.  I noticed the brows, too, although I'm one who has to tame them!  As for the shoes:  I've already searched US sites, but we don't see to have the red!  Love them!

  • Katerina replied 2 years ago

    My condolences.

    Your outfit is gorgeous and seems to be very good for the occasion. You look beautiful and very stylish as always.

  • Karin L H replied 2 years ago

    So sorry about the funeral...

    Love your outfit and the way you combined everything, and the hair looks great!

  • Karie replied 2 years ago

    My sympathies on the passing of your friend’s husband. You dressed very appropriately for the situation. Your hair looks gorgeous!

  • Sterling replied 2 years ago

    You look amazing, Suz, and the red shoes are to die for.  So, so perfect.  

  • Runcarla replied 2 years ago

    You have a gifted hairstylist stylist who 'gets' you. Fab summer version of your pixie.

    The red sandals are wonderful, and just the right thing for your serious outfit.

  • Aida replied 2 years ago

    My condolences Suz. Lovely outfit, for the occasion or otherwise. You do rock that pixie ^^

  • Windchime replied 2 years ago

    You pulled together a perfect outfit for this occasion. It’s a good example of combining blue and black. Love the new haircut!

  • Mainelady replied 2 years ago

    Suz, I am sorry about the loss of your friend. An open house is a lovely way to honor the deceased.
    Your hair is amazing!! The colors, of course, are gorgeous and the new cut looks perfect for summer. Your outfit is handsome and very appropriate for the open house. I love the red sandals with your dress and kimono. Well done!

  • krishnidoux replied 2 years ago

    It's a sad moment but you look fantastic!
    Great hair.

  • Column replied 2 years ago

    Condolences, Suz. And you are always a style icon.

  • Sara L. replied 2 years ago

    You look perfect for the occasion.  Your hair looks great on you and easy sounds perfect for summer.

  • bceasar replied 2 years ago

    You look so gorgeous even if you're going to funeral. Condolences to the passing of your friend. Cheers!

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