Gala: Possibility #1

Here is the Jax dress that Diana found for me at The Bay. (Can you believe her generosity, searching that groaning tortoise of a website when she was only days away from her own wedding? Sheesh!!)

Naturally, I have thoughts, but I won't mention them yet because I am interested in your views.

I still have one more dress on its way to me, by the way, and have not yet exhausted all other possibilities. So honest assessments are welcome, including pros and cons. 

Thanks in advance for your thoughts! 
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48 Comments

  • replied 7 years ago

    I quite like it Suz! How do you feel in it? The length looks good and you look great in blues. The only thing I don't like is it is satiny but that is my own poison eye -- the construction in the bands mitigates the swaths of satin.

  • Zapotee replied 7 years ago

    Love it

  • annagybe replied 7 years ago
    I really like it. 
  • deb replied 7 years ago
    I like it but like Ceit, satin is not my thing. Is the back pulling at the waist area? It is hard to tell from the pics.
  • Nicole D replied 7 years ago
    It's stunning!  I would like to see how it looks a tiny bit shorter (like one tier shoerter).  Still fine as is too.
  • Sara L. replied 7 years ago
    Ooh, I love it!  I love the blue and black combo and the interesting stripes.  You look fantastic in it!
  • texstyle replied 7 years ago
    Well you look fantastic in this and I love the way it works with the blazer. The colors are beautiful on you. It is satiny of course but the gala is an important event so you want to shine. I'd say it's a definite contender.
  • amiable replied 7 years ago
    It takes my breath away!

    Is it a tad long in the waist?  It seems like there's a little bit of extra fabric above your bum in the back.

    But I love it anyway.  
  • kellygirl replied 7 years ago
    Stunning! I love everything about it.
  • CocoLion replied 7 years ago
    Fits you beautifully!
  • Karie replied 7 years ago
    It looks like something's up with the fabric at the waist in the back, but it could be the way you are standing. Otherwise, you look gorgeous! That color is perfect for you.
  • rae replied 7 years ago
    It looks super duper fab on my phone! Fits really nicely, and I love you in blue. The bold pattern is different for you but I am in favor of being different and standing out at an event like this.
  • Mia replied 7 years ago
    You look stunning.  Love the side view in particular.  Do you feel great??  If so, look no further.

    Also, I must thank you for the comment on the earlier thread re the fit at the hip in the Dries dress.  I always thought I had a "big rear end" because I have the same fitting problem at times.  I think you are right that because I am relatively short I can run into problems in a sheath type silhouette even though my primary body type is rectangle based on width of shoulders and hips.   YLF to the rescue again.  
  • Mo replied 7 years ago

    WOW. This is a winner.

  • rachylou replied 7 years ago
    It's really beautiful. Shiny, but not flashy.
  • Angie replied 7 years ago
    KILLER

    But in the same breath I have to ask - does it feel like you, Suz? It's maximal - and you are a minimalist.

    If it *feels* right too, you certainly have my blessing :)
  • catgirl replied 7 years ago
    I think this is FANTASTIC.  I am hoping you do too, because if not, I'm wondering if we would have loved some of the other hundreds of dresses you tried and discarded. :)  It is a little more flash than you usually sport, but it is also for an unusual event that needs something SPECIAL!
  • Transcona Shannon replied 7 years ago
    Incredibly gorgeous and flattering on you Suz. The colour is just stunning and I love shoulder asymmetry. I see what others are saying about the bit of extra fabric going on in the back at your waist but I suspect that is a result of how you're standing.

    This is a bit of a departure for you though - are you comfy in it?
  • Laura (rhubarbgirl) replied 7 years ago
    It's a super-cool design, I must say. From the pics, though, it looks like it might be a little big in the top half? From all the details that might be something that would be hard to fix with tailoring.
  • Sona replied 7 years ago
    its too satiny I think. I love the back shoulder detail but it does not scream Suz to me.
  • DonnaF replied 7 years ago
    This dress really flatters you.  If I saw it on a hanger, web site, or in a catalog I am not sure that I would have thought of you. . .So how do YOU feel in it?  It is asymmetrical, but not what I would call androgynous or princely.  Follow your heart on this one.
  • Suz replied 7 years ago
    Thanks so much, everyone. I so appreciate your comments. Here are my own thoughts:

    #1 I agree that the fit of the waist in back is perhaps slightly off -- again - I am short-waisted. And there are no Petites dresses to be had in my neck of the woods, and even if there were, they'd be too short for me, because I'm not petite height. I do think the effect might be exaggerated because of the way I was standing and also because it's so shiny in the flash -- IRL my husband didn't notice anything like that, and he usually does. 

    #2 Angie has put her finger on it. It does not feel like "me." I think it is because of what Ceit  and Sona said. I am not crazy about the satin. Also, I am unused to wearing something quite so body con. It's a bit like being girdled (which I guess it is, quite frankly!) Or maybe it is the combination of the two. I do wear my tube skirts without a thought, after all. But they're not shiny. I feel a bit as if I am dressed for a prom, which doesn't seem right. 

    Having said that, I think this dress is worth keeping in reserve in case my other options do not work out. Here's why:

    a). Despite the fit issue noticed by a few of you, it fits better than almost anything else I have tried and does not need alteration. That is a major plus given my time constraints and my uncertainty about Wonder Woman East's ability to do a complicated alteration on a relatively expensive item. 

    b). Colours are pretty good, if somewhat on the bold side for me. 

    c). I like the asymmetrical neckline and think it suits me. 

    d). Despite the girdling effect, once it is on, it's surprisingly comfortable to wear because it has a lot of stretch. I did the sit test. It doesn't ride up and it falls back into place immediately on standing -- doesn't get all wrinkled and stuck, as some body con dresses might. 

    e). In some ways, that girdling might turn out to be a sort of advantage. You tend to need to feel a bit protected in these situations. Dress as armour, and all that. 


    In other words, I am still holding out for something better, but in an emergency, I figure I can pull this out of the closet and make it work. I still have time in my return window, so I'm going to hang onto it for now and see what else I can find. 




  • Suz replied 7 years ago
    ETA: Laura, definitely not too big in the top section. I can hardly do it up there (sort of a first, for me -- and made me wonder if I should size up, but I don't think it would fit elsewhere in that case!) 
  • MNsara replied 7 years ago
    You are stunningly beautiful in it!  It is a gorgeous dress, and I have no problem with the satin shine.  I bet IRL, without flash, it is just normal satin shine.  Further it's sleeveless and knee length, and you're quite tiny, so there's really not that much there to shine!

    The color and fit are wonderful as well.  The tonal pattern and piecing are tasteful and flattering.   I like it's current length actually for elegance. 

    I'm dying to hear what your thoughts are!  It sounds like it might be out of your comfort zone, but I hope not.  As long as you're not striving to find a little BLACK dress for this gala, this one is striking!!
  • Caro in Oz replied 7 years ago
    I think it looks lovely but I was also going to ask does it feel like you?
    There is something about the boldness - colour & fabric that doesn't seem like something you would choose/love.
  • unfrumped replied 7 years ago
    It is more than good enough! So, okay to.keep.eyes open, especially for purchasing(as opposed tk being able to borrow something for a special occasion, in case another dress just feels like the one  you would wear over & over. No one there  will know whether you've  deviated from your style! While it may be a bit more maximal-- I understand the satin issue- the more sophisticated colors help as does the " simple" maximalness , to.me ( not a print, no ruffles, no bling except the satin. And you are right, another dress may look more.minimal but  be more confining or feel weird on.An appropriate neckline.plus length are hard to come by. Usually something has to give, so it offen comes  down to  priority list. This dress has a very posh but elegant look.
  • bj1111 replied 7 years ago

    Good decision to keep as back up. I also like the girding effect these dresses have. I find it comforting and oddly i am more confident because i can forget about my pooch.

    You may find it protective for another reason.

  • Angie replied 7 years ago
    I support the decision to keep it as back up!

    As far as the fit goes, Suz - definitely not too big on top. And the back fit is not a problem at all. Cause: stretchy fabric coupled with your waist indentation. Forget about it! And you won't notice it at all in motion :)
  • catgirl replied 7 years ago
    You have to wear this somewhere!

    I gotta say yay to girdling in the right fabric.  Stretch girdling is awesome - that Papell dress I suggested made me feel nicely held together, like a well-fitting bra for my whole body.  Stiff girdling makes me crazy, like a tight woven shift dress with no give. 


  • Beth Ann replied 7 years ago
    Late to the thread, but I do think you look stunning in this dress.  Satin never photographs well, you know, and the shine can be lovely in a banquet hall with nice lighting.
    This is an extremely flattering and lovely dress, but it's true it's not speaking your native style language.  This same dress in matte blues or in shiny tonal taupes would be an absolutely perfect find.  That said, I think this is far better than a backup, and the fact that it's a little bolder than typical for you could be a good thing in this environment.


  • catgirl replied 7 years ago
    I think you would adore the Pappell dress I linked.  It's like this dress in matte black.
  • Susie replied 7 years ago

    I think it looks fantastic on you and it is very flattering. You look gorgeous in blue. While it may be a departure style wise, it is still relatively simple in design. And the shine is appropriate for a gala. What you said about about the sit test is important. Not being distracted by something fussy means you can relax and allow your warm personality to outshine the dress.

    I don't think you would be settling if you choose to wear this one....YLF!

  • Suz replied 7 years ago
    Thanks, Beth Ann and Angie and Sara and Caro! 

    I do think the flash makes it seem more...flashy!...than it looks IRL, especially by candlelight, one can only assume. 

    I feel well sorted now -- at least I won't be going naked to this event! And I still have a bit of time to look for something different. 
  • shevia replied 7 years ago
    The colors and shape are stunning on you! I do see what you are concerned about with the "is it me?" factor, and I am holding out high hopes for the AP dress that has yet to arrive, but you would you do look smashing in this!
  • Sarah A replied 7 years ago
    It sounds like you have things sorted, I really think this looks lovely on you (if it is a bit of a reach stylewise)... I am glad you have a plan and dont have to feel terribly stressed if you dont come by another perfect frock for your big event.
  • sarah replied 7 years ago
    Hah, I was going to say what Angie said, but of course she beat me to it. You're sorted as far as this dress is concerned. Now, fingers crossed for the other options.
  • Suz replied 7 years ago
    Una, I was really hoping to avoid black. I can wear it, but it's not my best colour and feels especially unfab for spring, somehow. But maybe I should reconsider. Susie, Shevia, Sarah and Sarah, thank you! 
  • Ariadne replied 7 years ago
    I do really love this for you, Suz.  If you find something even better, hooray, but if not, like you said, you're more than well covered! 

    PS - I didn't have a chance to comment on the thread, but I loved your Banff outfits so much.  
  • lyn67 replied 7 years ago
    Love this one, too! Fits you perfect, but the taupe israelian dress is more you Suz...(?)
    (now off to read other's comments)
  • Sveta replied 7 years ago
    Late here but wanted to say that I really like it on you. This is a good backup option and the color is gorgeous on you -not too much at all.
  • krishnidoux replied 7 years ago
    I like it too, but... to my eye, it is not long enough for the event. Something below the knee would look better suited to the occasion. 

    Of course you are stunning in it, and it showcases your great body. 

    But... for a gala, where you will receive an award, I would do a different length especially with heels. 
  • Mona replied 7 years ago
    Suz, the colour and fit are extremely flattering on you. I know you are thinking about keeping it as a second option which is a great idea. But the fit is lovely and I told you, you look absolutely gorgeous in blues.
  • Zapotee replied 7 years ago

    Suz, what you see as "fit issues" are the result of you capturing a still image of the dress. i think that type of fabric and cut of dress tends to photograph that way. Unless you are concerned about how the dress photographs, I see no fit issues at all. Bust is fine, waist is fine, the wrinkle at the waist is just your hips Missyeeee... IMO, LOL. No worries! Perfect backup!

  • Elizabeth P replied 7 years ago
    Oh my!  Late to the party, but still feel I have to chime in and say how much I love this.  You must be so relieved to have at least found something, even if it's a tad outside your comfort zone.
  • Archer replied 7 years ago
    Did you try is with black sheers or did this look too bombshell?
  • replied 7 years ago
    Wow! You look so pretty in blue, and that cut is doing some amazing things for your figure. 

    This dress is ticking all of the Dramatic Classic boxes, the sheen, the substantial/rich fabric, clean/narrow lines of the silhouette, the geometric design, the color blocking, asymmetric neckline, but IKWYM about the 'is it me' factor. I feel it looks best with out the jacket because of the neckline, but ya gotta do what ya gotta do if it's cold. The plot thickens!
  • Carole replied 7 years ago

    I'm late here, Suz, I did see your post earlier and was reluctant to give my 2 cents because I feel sort of "off" lately. It's extremely flattering but the fact that it doesn't feel like you makes me hesitate. I sympathize with the quest for "the dress" having just gone through the process with my MOG dress. It's good to have a back up plan and hopefully the perfect dress that "feels like you" will appear, and lets hope it's soon!

  • Day Vies replied 7 years ago
    Mesmerizing! I love this dress. I love you in it better WOW! 

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